Great idea about hiding the passports. At this stage you need to be a few steps ahead and think the worst of what he might do to sabotage thing for you and the kids (and then find a way to blame you for it). He no doubt feels mortally wounded having to move into his parents house now, so will probably ramp up the shitty behaviour. Stay strong and keep posting. There are many who have been through it here who can support you, as they will have experienced the same patterns of childish, sulky behaviour, threats and foot stamping that your ex may do. But keep your focus on the peace you can have in your house as soon as he's out the door to go to his parents. If you can stretch to a takeaway or a few treats and movie night for yourself and the kids tonight it might help keep a nice calming atmosphere for you all.Lady Madonna wrote: ↑Sun Mar 24, 2024 9:37 am It sounds like he wants to make the holiday as awkward as possible just to make his presence felt whereas you'll be able to relax better without his presence. He'll probably still try to rock the boat between now and then but once you get there the distance between you will do you good. I hope all passports etc. are well in date and it might be no harm to move them to somewhere other than where you usually keep them just in case.
As for the holiday, don't bring it up again. I wouldn't bother my backside trying to facilitate him joining you and no doubt spoiling it for everyone. He has said no, leave it at that. While you are away there wont be any real need to be in contact with him so take that time to enjoy the peace.
Keep communication via text/email as much as you can so you have proof if he is being nasty. You don't need to reply to every message he may send, especially if he is just trying to annoy you.