DH has given up on life

[RDR]

One other thought, you mentioned a son. It might be worth checking does he have someone he can talk to outside the family. And maybe consider talking to him (depending on age). He must see his dad, feel the tension but he may not understand what’s going on or why it can’t be easily fixed.

[Dnwa]

I would definitely confide in a friend but have an agreement he is not to repeate anything, he could help with a job or something.

Men is very complex, I know your affraid to break his trust but he needs intervention on all levels and sometimes it takes a village, so don't rule it out.

Definitely contact gp for u and him .

[Nodrog]

Can he mind the children/look after the house while you look for a job?
Being financially independent would be my first priority along with my own mental health.

[GerryG2]

I’m so sorry to read this. How awfully worried you must be. I hope everything will work out ok.

[molls]

I think it is a bit worrying that he has health insurance, but you don't. Can you get health insurance too?

[twinfun]

I’ve no real advice but trying again to persuade him to see a counsellor

But most importantly your needs are very important too

[Nodrog]

How are you doing OP?