Feeling unappreciated on birthday.

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#61 Post by CocoRose »

Great stuff and happy birthday! Another year wiser 😄

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#62 Post by Groucho »

Good for you. Great update!

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#63 Post by ID1OT »

Happy Birthday. 🎈

I'm delighted with your update but it also made me smile to "hear" the difference in you. Fair play to you for turning things around.

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#64 Post by twinfun »

Brilliant update and happy birthday wishes to you too 🎉

Strong I’m thinking of you and hopefully you may have had some positive changes in your relationship??

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#65 Post by molls »

Thanks for posting that update. Delighted you are getting the love and respect you deserve.

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#66 Post by Taketwo »

What a lovely update, I'm so pleased for you.

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#67 Post by Novbaby31 »

oh that is a lovely update. I am delighted that this year was a very different experience to last year.

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#68 Post by DiscoGirl »

Lovely update, sounds like you had a lovely day!

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#69 Post by Jumping Bean »

Great update, well done you!

Belated birthday wishes 🎉

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#70 Post by Grasscutter »

Your update brought a tear to my eye. So delighted for you. Should almost be a sticky post - I've read so many posts over the years from mothers who have been disappointed by birthdays, mother's day, Christmas etc -this thread is a brilliant example of how to handle these situations and validates the feelings of mothers.

Getting the balance between being the family caregiver and family doormat is such a difficult one - it sounds like you've got it right. Perhaps last year's birthday pain was worth it after all given how it's changed your perspective, and your DH's.
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#71 Post by Nodrog »

Happy Belated Birthday. Great update.

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#72 Post by chubbybumble »

Good for you. Happy birthday 🥳

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#73 Post by Elsie »

how quick that year went by! and look how far you have come.

note to everyone reading to look how things can change in a year. As the saying goes whether you say you can or you cant.... you are right ...... lets start positive thinking!!

delighted to read that update... enjoy being treated after this long x

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#74 Post by Disappointed21 »

Hello I thought maybe an update would be good two years on.

I have had another better birthday. This year I made a list of things I would like. And also bought myself some gifts.

I have done a lot of self care including getting botox for the first time which has given me a big confidence boost.

I have continued with my class once a week and also other times head off and suit myself so they have had to get on with things at home.

If anyone is in the same boat I would hugely recommend to start being more self centred and lift the sense of obligations you might feel. I used to do so much for others I lost myself as a priority and I have scaled so many things back eg worrying about older relatives and being accommodating for in laws. This year for Christmas for the first time I have not offered to host anything.

Anyway I hope this might help someone who might be in the same boat as I was.

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#75 Post by Namaste »

Good for you 👍

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