Anxiety and boy trying to get in contact with her
Posted: Sat Feb 22, 2020 12:30 am
DD suffers very badly with anxiety. She always has a topic on the go to be worried about e.g. death, illness, break ins.
She went on a language exchange and she met a group of people. There was one boy on the course and they got on at first. He came out to see her in our town one day and it freaked her out. He was asking her where he lived and she was worried. Then he started following her around on social media even though she was ignoring him. He began to post nasty messages into the exchange group chats about how the group were all a- holes etc.
Then the next week he posted a photo of a gun saying he had just acquired it.
My daughter was very anxious he was threatening with this and left the group. He then rang the language group guide (adult) And asked why everyone was ignoring him. The leader rang me about it (tbh I thought this was most odd) . I told him that my daughter no longer wanted to be in contact with this guy.
My daughter was very upset thinking he would follow her home and kill/ hurt her. I realise this is the anxiety talking and we managed to rationalise it.
He kept posting into other groups she was in so she left them all.
Then today, several months after all this, he posted into another group. Bloody social media. Anyway, next thing his sister requested her on Instagram and then my daughter got freaked out. She doesn't know the sister at all. She then left that group too.
Then this evening he friend requested her on fb from a blank account with his name on it.
She has blocked him everywhere she can but he keeps popping up.
She is her roaring crying now again thinking he is coming yo get her. I know this is irrational but at the same time this guy is following her around.
I told her we could go to the Gardaí but she said she was worried this would inflame him. She said he was telling her he stabbed someone in school with a compass when they annoyed him before.
What would you do in this situation. I know that we can only look to manage her anxiety but at the same time this eejit keeps popping up and upsetting her. He lives 50km away but he drives.
She went on a language exchange and she met a group of people. There was one boy on the course and they got on at first. He came out to see her in our town one day and it freaked her out. He was asking her where he lived and she was worried. Then he started following her around on social media even though she was ignoring him. He began to post nasty messages into the exchange group chats about how the group were all a- holes etc.
Then the next week he posted a photo of a gun saying he had just acquired it.
My daughter was very anxious he was threatening with this and left the group. He then rang the language group guide (adult) And asked why everyone was ignoring him. The leader rang me about it (tbh I thought this was most odd) . I told him that my daughter no longer wanted to be in contact with this guy.
My daughter was very upset thinking he would follow her home and kill/ hurt her. I realise this is the anxiety talking and we managed to rationalise it.
He kept posting into other groups she was in so she left them all.
Then today, several months after all this, he posted into another group. Bloody social media. Anyway, next thing his sister requested her on Instagram and then my daughter got freaked out. She doesn't know the sister at all. She then left that group too.
Then this evening he friend requested her on fb from a blank account with his name on it.
She has blocked him everywhere she can but he keeps popping up.
She is her roaring crying now again thinking he is coming yo get her. I know this is irrational but at the same time this guy is following her around.
I told her we could go to the Gardaí but she said she was worried this would inflame him. She said he was telling her he stabbed someone in school with a compass when they annoyed him before.
What would you do in this situation. I know that we can only look to manage her anxiety but at the same time this eejit keeps popping up and upsetting her. He lives 50km away but he drives.