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#256 Post by Sad mum »

I just want to explain that I have asked my sister to allow her stay . We live 200 miles from college , she would have to drop out if she had no where to live .

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#258 Post by CocoRose »

OP I hope things improve for you and I agree the main thing now is acceptance of where things are and taking care of yourself. When your daughter is ready to resume communication you'll be in a much better position to handle it having taken care of yourself and hopefully you can both re-build but take care of yourself first.

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#259 Post by April »

I feel sorry for the DD. The OP got good advice from some posters but to me she’s aggravating things with her DD. The DD said she’s going to collect the card at the weekend but didn’t want to talk to anyone - then the OP texts her to say card has arrived and she will post it and the DD texts back asking if she’s actually posted it (presumably wondering if the card will arrive to her Aunt’s house today/when/was it posted). However, the OP didn’t actually get to post it, is going to sleep on it and maybe leave it for the DD to collect it after all - there’s a hint of the OP playing mind games with her DD.
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#260 Post by GerryG »

Reading updates from the OP etc I think both sides are equally playing games.
The DD is 20 and an adult. She should have her address changed by now for important mail.
The OP should have be clear yesterday as to what she was doing with the bank card and either have sent it or told her to collect, she’s leaving herself open to being the bad guy again!

OP, I would be concerned that your posts are coming across as very “airy fairy” as Micheal Healy Rae would like to say!
Raising children is something we’re boundaries put in place early on are super important it gives both child and parent security.

I would personally step away now from this thread and decide how you can start repairing yourself to enable you to have relationships with both your daughters. I feel most for the sibling left at home, she must feel very insecure with all this happening around you.

Maybe focus on her and that of the relationship with your husband. Your older daughter is safe and well, just leave it at that, she’s her own life to lead with or without you in it
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#261 Post by Smoke »

I'm just wondering if things have calmed down at all sad mum?
Feel free of course to not reply if you so choose.

But it's seemed such a difficult situation for you to be in I hope it has resolved to everyone's satisfaction.

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#262 Post by Dobble »

Op just wondering how things are now? Has your dd changed her ways? Hope you have come to terms with the situation

(GerryGs thread made me think of this one)

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#263 Post by GerryG2 »

Dobble wrote: Fri Nov 04, 2022 1:59 pm Op just wondering how things are now? Has your dd changed her ways? Hope you have come to terms with the situation

(GerryGs thread made me think of this one)
You know I was thinking of the Op’s daughter too. I know my advice would be to kick her ass but Jesus I’m eating my words it’s not that easy! Young relationships can totally throw a spanner in the works for sure
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