by dilemma » Wed Jul 24, 2019 12:00 pm
Reg gone anon. Sorry, it's a long one
I have been friends with Mary (not her real name!) for a long time. She was good friends with a group of 4 /5 ladies, who I got to know, nice girls, good fun. Two years ago, I grow quite close to the group too. I joined an activity which they are all involved in (mary isn't involved) I went through a personal trauma and they were there for me, along with Mary of course. I would see Mary a lot, the other group, not so much. However, about a year ago, Mary had a falling out with one of the girls in the other gang. Mary blew the whole thing out of proportion. Total over reaction. The other girl just wanted to let it blow over and move on but Mary didn't. Mary began refusing invites to various things these girls were hosting (40ths, kids debs, etc....).
Now, it looks like the other group have washed their hands of Mary. They told me they want to keep it civil but are sick of the drama. For example, there was a fund raiser a few weeks ago. Cycling, which I am involved in. Mary rang the girl she had an issue with on the morning of the event demanding to know why she wasn't invited....it was explained to her that she doesn't cycle and it wasn't intentional. This wasn't a one off....there have been a few incidents like this.
I am not taking sides. I like the other group and love Mary. I have made it clear. I received a text this morning to say she wants to meet up with the group and tell them all how their behaviour has hurt her. I gently (I felt) suggested that it wasn't a good idea and it would create more drama. Now, I'm accused of letting her down, etc......
I feel for her but am getting worn down with the drama myself if I'm honest.
Reg gone anon. Sorry, it's a long one :rolleyes:
I have been friends with Mary (not her real name!) for a long time. She was good friends with a group of 4 /5 ladies, who I got to know, nice girls, good fun. Two years ago, I grow quite close to the group too. I joined an activity which they are all involved in (mary isn't involved) I went through a personal trauma and they were there for me, along with Mary of course. I would see Mary a lot, the other group, not so much. However, about a year ago, Mary had a falling out with one of the girls in the other gang. Mary blew the whole thing out of proportion. Total over reaction. The other girl just wanted to let it blow over and move on but Mary didn't. Mary began refusing invites to various things these girls were hosting (40ths, kids debs, etc....).
Now, it looks like the other group have washed their hands of Mary. They told me they want to keep it civil but are sick of the drama. For example, there was a fund raiser a few weeks ago. Cycling, which I am involved in. Mary rang the girl she had an issue with on the morning of the event demanding to know why she wasn't invited....it was explained to her that she doesn't cycle and it wasn't intentional. This wasn't a one off....there have been a few incidents like this.
I am not taking sides. I like the other group and love Mary. I have made it clear. I received a text this morning to say she wants to meet up with the group and tell them all how their behaviour has hurt her. I gently (I felt) suggested that it wasn't a good idea and it would create more drama. Now, I'm accused of letting her down, etc......
I feel for her but am getting worn down with the drama myself if I'm honest.