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Re: DD has a girlfriend

by HeyJude » Fri Aug 17, 2018 2:27 pm

While my initial reaction was that at least she can't get pregnant I then thought about it again. If she is the eldest then you need to set whatever ground rules you want to have for all of your kids regardless of their partners. So if it was a boy and your gut is No, then you have to say no. I wouldn't be comfortable with a child having sex regardless of with whom at 15.

Re: DD has a girlfriend

by Asia » Fri Aug 17, 2018 6:04 am

Nothing to add except its really lovely how supportive you are as parents.

Re: DD has a girlfriend

by MonkeyBars » Thu Aug 16, 2018 7:20 pm

Guest wrote:Girls, thanks so much for all the feedback.

I’m delighted she’s open with me to tell me what’s going on. I don’t want to cross a line though, and embarrass her looking for details!

Her grandparents are closet homophobes. I could be starting a whole new thread when they figure this out :crazy1:
Bet they turn out to be her biggest cheerleaders when/if she does come out

Re: DD has a girlfriend

by Guest » Thu Aug 16, 2018 4:11 pm

Girls, thanks so much for all the feedback.

I’m delighted she’s open with me to tell me what’s going on. I don’t want to cross a line though, and embarrass her looking for details!

Her grandparents are closet homophobes. I could be starting a whole new thread when they figure this out :crazy1:

Re: DD has a girlfriend

by taximom » Thu Aug 16, 2018 3:51 pm

I'd say no totally because of her age

I don't think it matters whether she has a boyfriend or girlfriend she's just too young

Re: DD has a girlfriend

by Clara » Thu Aug 16, 2018 3:09 pm

I would say no because she is 15. What if she and this girl split up and she meets another girl and so on. Will she think it's ok to stay with them too? She is far too young to be sleeping over with her girlfriend.

Re: DD has a girlfriend

by DiscoGirl » Thu Aug 16, 2018 2:10 pm

It would be a no from me , nothing to do with sexuality , she is too young imo

Re: DD has a girlfriend

by Polly13 » Thu Aug 16, 2018 2:07 pm

No would be my position same as if it were a boyfriend.

Re: DD has a girlfriend

by zoesmum » Thu Aug 16, 2018 1:40 pm

I wouldn't at 15 either, I've thought about it for a few mins and my 14 year is sitting in the room with me. At 16 I'd review and at 17 I'd be more lax because that's the age I was when I took that step with my boyfriend and I was very ready.

Re: DD has a girlfriend

by Angel » Thu Aug 16, 2018 1:37 pm

I just thought about my own having sex with someone with my knowledge in the house with me and realised I would definitely say no. I know they can do it anyway but im not giving my blessing at 15.

Re: DD has a girlfriend

by Muggins » Thu Aug 16, 2018 1:35 pm

Grasscutter wrote: Pregnancy is the single biggest reason to try and delay sexual activity in teens who want to have sex. There are other reasons but that’s the big one.
I disagree. Sex is about more than pregnancy.
Sexual intimacy is a big step for anyone and at 15 personally i don't think teenagers are mature enough for everything that goes with it.

Personally i would treat it as any romantic relationship, no sleeping over, doors open, age of consent etc.

Re: DD has a girlfriend

by Angel » Thu Aug 16, 2018 1:32 pm

I think I would say no mainly because I have other kids and they would argue with me if they weren't allowed to stay with BF and would actually argue with me that they were using protection so whats the big deal.

God its a hard one isn't it. I don't really know for sure what I would do. I think 15 is too young to have a sexual partner stay over really.

Re: DD has a girlfriend

by zoesmum » Thu Aug 16, 2018 12:44 pm

I think it's the same as the boyfriend girlfriend rule like others have said. And more importantly that it's fair to all siblings when their turn comes. What ever you decide on would have to be the same for all kids.

My first job would be to introduce myself to the GFs parents to ensure you both are on the same page, have the same opinions etc.

Lastly, I think it's super cool that she's so comfortable asking!

Re: DD has a girlfriend

by StarryNight » Thu Aug 16, 2018 12:18 pm

I suppose you have to have one rule and stick to it.
No sleepovers in the same room with boyfriends or girlfriends allowed when we were teenagers/early 20s. I had a boyfriend when I was 22 and working and living at home, he had to stay in the spare room one time he stayed over. Same rule for my sisters and brothers. Pretty sure it would have been the same if any of us had a same sex partner. Parents' house, their rules.

Re: DD has a girlfriend

by Bekim » Thu Aug 16, 2018 12:09 pm

What will you do with her siblings though with the whole BF/GF thing
I know mine would argue the head off me about that one!

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