by Kensington » Sat Jul 14, 2018 9:43 pm
Look, I have every sympathy for your husband. It must be a great shock for him and a worry.
But he has no right to kick you out of the house and has not right to make unilateral decisions about the children. Obviously you need to sort yourself out in a serious way but I don't see why you should be out of your home and your children getting half-assed information about why mum isn't home because he discovered something that has been on-going for the past year.
What do your children need or want? How is it going to work you being out of the house in the immediate term? What is he going to tell them? I think he needs to calm down and you need to get a grip on your problem but there really shouldn't be any "mum has done bad things and can't live with us right now" or whatever his plan is. That isn't in your children's best interest. You both need to figure out how this is going to work. A gambling debt may ruin your marriage but it doesn't mean you can't be an effective mother - obviously there may be other issues you aren't telling us about.
If I were you I would stay with family tonight, text him and say you are staying with family and please don't say anything to the children until you meet with him. Then plan on meeting tomorrow and tell him the idea of you just moving out isn't going to work. I would also contact Gamblers Anonynmous as a matter of urgency - should be the first call you make.
Look, I have every sympathy for your husband. It must be a great shock for him and a worry.
But he has no right to kick you out of the house and has not right to make unilateral decisions about the children. Obviously you need to sort yourself out in a serious way but I don't see why you should be out of your home and your children getting half-assed information about why mum isn't home because he discovered something that has been on-going for the past year.
What do your children need or want? How is it going to work you being out of the house in the immediate term? What is he going to tell them? I think he needs to calm down and you need to get a grip on your problem but there really shouldn't be any "mum has done bad things and can't live with us right now" or whatever his plan is. That isn't in your children's best interest. You both need to figure out how this is going to work. A gambling debt may ruin your marriage but it doesn't mean you can't be an effective mother - obviously there may be other issues you aren't telling us about.
If I were you I would stay with family tonight, text him and say you are staying with family and please don't say anything to the children until you meet with him. Then plan on meeting tomorrow and tell him the idea of you just moving out isn't going to work. I would also contact Gamblers Anonynmous as a matter of urgency - should be the first call you make.