by tippexile » Sat Feb 24, 2018 9:30 am
I had something similar when my dad was moved to a hospice. He had fallen out with 2 of his brothers as they had refused to help him with some work he needed to be done when his cancer returned. Dad had helped them many times over the years and he was desparately hurt that the one time he asked for help in a very hard situation that they would not help him.So, Dad was in a hospice and told us he did not want to see them at all. They phoned a few times, followed my mum around the local supeemarket demanding to see him but we just said that dad is well able to make his own decisions and he does not want to see you. It was awful but we just did what dad wanted as like you, that was what mattered. They will stop eventually . Just concentrate on the people that matter and try to put them out of your mind. It's harc I know but don't let them intrude on your time with your dad.
I had something similar when my dad was moved to a hospice. He had fallen out with 2 of his brothers as they had refused to help him with some work he needed to be done when his cancer returned. Dad had helped them many times over the years and he was desparately hurt that the one time he asked for help in a very hard situation that they would not help him.So, Dad was in a hospice and told us he did not want to see them at all. They phoned a few times, followed my mum around the local supeemarket demanding to see him but we just said that dad is well able to make his own decisions and he does not want to see you. It was awful but we just did what dad wanted as like you, that was what mattered. They will stop eventually . Just concentrate on the people that matter and try to put them out of your mind. It's harc I know but don't let them intrude on your time with your dad.