My hubby's online behaviour

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Re: My hubby's online behaviour

by CLBG » Mon Feb 12, 2018 3:31 pm

All I can say to you stranegone is to trust your gut instinct. Do not let him gaslight you and make you think you're being unreasonable for being upset about it. Don't doubt your own feelings or question yourself. There may be absolutely nothing to it, and maybe he was just enjoying a little bit of a harmless online connection with her, but you are entitled to your feelings. If they are hurt, they're hurt. He should ultimately be willing to accept that his actions have hurt you, and recognise that he was out of line.

Re: My hubby's online behaviour

by Starryeyedsurprise » Mon Feb 12, 2018 2:18 pm

If it is just her accounts he comments on, that is not okay,

Hope things are a bit better for you. Not defending your DH but people do foolish things at times.

Re: My hubby's online behaviour

by Strangeone » Sun Feb 11, 2018 2:44 pm

amber wrote:Is it just her he comments on? My cousin in America comments on absolutely everything. He has a few thousand friends and a very busy life. I wonder how the hell he has time. But no matter what any of our mutual friends post he comments.
Only her. Her FB and Instagram.

Re: My hubby's online behaviour

by Jazzberry » Sun Feb 11, 2018 1:40 pm

Only you know your husband. Maybe he did think her sons tshirt was cool? Just be careful what you listen to on forums. It's easy for ppl to assume things when no one knows the full story behind it. Sounds like yous need to have a sit down with him alone. You's need to have a heart to heart. Hope you's sort it out.

Re: My hubby's online behaviour

by Starryeyedsurprise » Sun Feb 11, 2018 1:36 pm

Strangeone wrote:Thanks again. My head is wrecked with the whole thing. Maybe I'm being overly dramatic.

We are talking but I'm still fuming. I, probabaly stupidly, trawled through the girl's Instagram and FB. Felt like such a creep but I wanted to see exactly what he is commenting on/liking.

It all goes back as far as 2013. Every single photo, he has liked and commented. He has even commented on photos of her young son.....saying his tshirt is cool, etc...this IMO, is way inappropriate and odd.

She posted on her Instagram last summer...."thank you to (my hubby) for sending me the video" ...it's something they are mutually interested in.

I'm hurt by the whole thing. What does her hubby think ??
Commenting on her kids photos is odd. I'm not suggesting creepy but almost too familiar.

Op, it sounds like you husband perhaps just got carried away. Hope you ok x

Re: My hubby's online behaviour

by Strangeone » Sat Feb 10, 2018 2:36 pm

Thanks again. My head is wrecked with the whole thing. Maybe I'm being overly dramatic.

We are talking but I'm still fuming. I, probabaly stupidly, trawled through the girl's Instagram and FB. Felt like such a creep but I wanted to see exactly what he is commenting on/liking.

It all goes back as far as 2013. Every single photo, he has liked and commented. He has even commented on photos of her young son.....saying his tshirt is cool, etc...this IMO, is way inappropriate and odd.

She posted on her Instagram last summer...."thank you to (my hubby) for sending me the video" ...it's something they are mutually interested in.

I'm hurt by the whole thing. What does her hubby think ??

Re: My hubby's online behaviour

by Starryeyedsurprise » Sat Feb 10, 2018 1:30 pm

If he continues to behave this way OP, you could have a problem but if not, I guess you have no choice but to let it go. You are justified in feeling hurt though x

Re: My hubby's online behaviour

by Strangeone » Thu Feb 08, 2018 10:58 am

Hi again.

I am still gutted over this. I do not want to keep checking Insta/FB, etc....I shouldn't have to.

Am so disappointed, pissed off, upset (to name but a few).

This girl is the polar opposite of me, tall, slim, beautiful :shock: young!

I did more trawling (feel so sneaky doing this but I can't help it). He has even commented on her children's photos. She posted a photo of her little boy (he's about 5 or 6) and he commented on that - along the lines of "cute t shirt" or something.

Am I missing something??? Is this normal social media behaviour??

Re: My hubby's online behaviour

by Angel » Wed Feb 07, 2018 8:14 pm

You’re right to be upset. Don’t let him make you feel that you’re not. I wonder how he would feel
If the shoe was on the other foot.

Re: My hubby's online behaviour

by Unnamed poster 6 » Wed Feb 07, 2018 8:07 pm

That is upsetting.

Re: My hubby's online behaviour

by Strangeone » Wed Feb 07, 2018 5:25 pm

Thanks again all. I'll have you all driven mad :shock: . I can't speak to anyone else about this as I'm embarrassed for my husband.

I am extremely hurt. I guess I have no choice but to suck it up :/

Re: My hubby's online behaviour

by DazedandConfused » Wed Feb 07, 2018 4:47 pm

It would upset me and I think you were right to say it to him. I think I'd let it go now, he was very defensive but he's probably a bit embarrassed now that he's thought it though. You'll only annoy yourself if you keep dwelling on it.

Re: My hubby's online behaviour

by CLBG » Wed Feb 07, 2018 4:35 pm

Sorry you're going through this Strangeone. It does sound upsetting.

Re: My hubby's online behaviour

by strangeone » Wed Feb 07, 2018 4:17 pm

Thanks to you all.

I am still very upset by the whole thing. :( He was very defensive. Never said sorry and implied I was being a bit silly.

To answer another post, she does like and comment but not very often. Nothing flirty either.

I have tormented myself going back over her social pages and his posts and likes really, really upset me. This isn't a recent thing. It is a few years. She posted something recently. A plain old photo of the beach or something and he gushed "wow, you have such an eye, etc.etc....really gushing and OTT.

I may be over dramatic but I can't even look at him at the minute :shock:

Re: My hubby's online behaviour

by Tinky » Wed Feb 07, 2018 2:41 pm

I think he's definitely going to pull back now he knows you can see them. I'm sorry that your DH didn't say 'Oh Strangeone, I didn't think about it like that, hope you didn't take it the wrong way and I'll keep an eye on what I'm liking in the future, sorry if it hurt your feelings'. Instead it sounds like your concerns weren't taken seriously which for me is equally if not a bigger issue. Maybe I am expecting too much and most men would go on the defensive for about this though.

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