by Iamanisland » Thu Feb 01, 2024 9:36 pm
I think it's really good he's booked an appointment with the GP, it sounds like he knows he needs help.
Do you think he has ASD?
I've a house full of ASD here and it's not an easy journey but better to get assessed and know about it.
I know it doesn't happen to everyone but smoking weed is linked to schizophrenia for one, so getting him off the weed is good. I think people with ASD can get addicted to drugs and alcohol as it's sort of self medicating for their anxiety and/or depression. So getting him off that would be great. It might help to replace it with something else, preferably something active.
Is there any physical activity he likes? Biking, swimming, hiking - things he can do on his own or join a club for some social connection without the pressure of performing in a team.
Even chess? I brought my youngest to a chess club for some of last year and it was 100% full of nerdy ASD people. Some chat but most didn't but it's good to get out of the house.
2 of mine do jujitsu which is another individual sport. I find these clubs and coaches are used to getting neurodiverse people and they are usually very kind, understanding and supportive of them.
Olympic weightlifting is an other one. Or Park runs, if you or your DH could go along with him at first to get him started. It can be hard turning up for the first few sessions especially if you are shy and don't get talking to people straight away.
Is there a remote workers hub nearby? I remote work now but was in the office for the first 17 years and while it's possible to make friends online in work it's absolutely not the same. I recently joined a remote working network group in my region and people meetup for walks and activities usually followed by a coffee and a bit of food somewhere. But small steps, anything at all to get him out of the house and get some physical activity and/or connect with someone would be a positive thing.
I think it's really good he's booked an appointment with the GP, it sounds like he knows he needs help.
Do you think he has ASD?
I've a house full of ASD here and it's not an easy journey but better to get assessed and know about it.
I know it doesn't happen to everyone but smoking weed is linked to schizophrenia for one, so getting him off the weed is good. I think people with ASD can get addicted to drugs and alcohol as it's sort of self medicating for their anxiety and/or depression. So getting him off that would be great. It might help to replace it with something else, preferably something active.
Is there any physical activity he likes? Biking, swimming, hiking - things he can do on his own or join a club for some social connection without the pressure of performing in a team.
Even chess? I brought my youngest to a chess club for some of last year and it was 100% full of nerdy ASD people. Some chat but most didn't but it's good to get out of the house.
2 of mine do jujitsu which is another individual sport. I find these clubs and coaches are used to getting neurodiverse people and they are usually very kind, understanding and supportive of them.
Olympic weightlifting is an other one. Or Park runs, if you or your DH could go along with him at first to get him started. It can be hard turning up for the first few sessions especially if you are shy and don't get talking to people straight away.
Is there a remote workers hub nearby? I remote work now but was in the office for the first 17 years and while it's possible to make friends online in work it's absolutely not the same. I recently joined a remote working network group in my region and people meetup for walks and activities usually followed by a coffee and a bit of food somewhere. But small steps, anything at all to get him out of the house and get some physical activity and/or connect with someone would be a positive thing.