by WorriedMam » Mon Feb 19, 2024 10:11 am
Thanks for all the replies and advice. I'll chat to my dh later today and decide what to do going forward. I do agree though that she needs to talk to someone.
This nighttime thing is relatively new though so I definitely think it's stemming from the friendship situation. She was always sociable and it's really just since the summer it's changed. Her group of friends don't always ask her out and some have made other friend groups. A few years ago dd made friends with a girl in her estate, one of her original friends made them fall out. I heard some of what was going on. She wanted dd for herself, even though dd included everyone in everything. Now that girl has made friends with a girl in her estate and doesn't include dd.
Dd was always the one to glue everyone together. If any of them were being bitchy and trying to leave another girl out, dd wouldn't stand for it. Now it's her being abandoned and not one of them fights for her. It's heartbreaking to see her face fall when she knows some of them have plans that don't include her.
I also remember last year they were trying to organise a party, for no reason really. They asked dd to host it here. Only it was June and one of my kids was in middle of LC so I said no. One said well my mam said No as they're going out, X can't host as her Dad won't allow it, Y can't host as her Mam is unwell, Z can't host as her Dad is having a party himself and W can't host as her sis doing LC. DD said but I've a sibling doing LC too. The friend said but yes, your sibling isn't as clever so who cares if they pass or not and if you don't host you can't come if we have it elsewhere.
I just wish she'd strike up other friendships in school. Maybe that'll happen in TY.
Thanks for all the replies and advice. I'll chat to my dh later today and decide what to do going forward. I do agree though that she needs to talk to someone.
This nighttime thing is relatively new though so I definitely think it's stemming from the friendship situation. She was always sociable and it's really just since the summer it's changed. Her group of friends don't always ask her out and some have made other friend groups. A few years ago dd made friends with a girl in her estate, one of her original friends made them fall out. I heard some of what was going on. She wanted dd for herself, even though dd included everyone in everything. Now that girl has made friends with a girl in her estate and doesn't include dd.
Dd was always the one to glue everyone together. If any of them were being bitchy and trying to leave another girl out, dd wouldn't stand for it. Now it's her being abandoned and not one of them fights for her. It's heartbreaking to see her face fall when she knows some of them have plans that don't include her.
I also remember last year they were trying to organise a party, for no reason really. They asked dd to host it here. Only it was June and one of my kids was in middle of LC so I said no. One said well my mam said No as they're going out, X can't host as her Dad won't allow it, Y can't host as her Mam is unwell, Z can't host as her Dad is having a party himself and W can't host as her sis doing LC. DD said but I've a sibling doing LC too. The friend said but yes, your sibling isn't as clever so who cares if they pass or not and if you don't host you can't come if we have it elsewhere.
I just wish she'd strike up other friendships in school. Maybe that'll happen in TY.