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I am sorry Faganlesley that ye are going through this. Remember though that’s the addict not your dd..unfortunately it takes over. She will get through it xx
Could you talk to your gp tomorrow , they might offer you support as you need to support yourself too.

Now she’s smoked it she’s all the sorry’s in the world and how good we are as parents. 2 hours ago she wanted to die and if she did it we’d have blood on our hands.

I feel sick. Gonna have an early night and hopefully get some sleep.

Thanks everyone for the advice and suggestions it makes it easier to rant and write it down. Especially those who have messaged me privately personal experiences make it seem not so lonely. Xx

Don't be ashamed - that's addiction for you and it can be unsafe to go cold turkey. Get through to Monday and take it from there. Poor kid. I know technically she's not a kid but she'll always be your kid.

I’m so ashamed of myself and her. She was like a wild animal this evening. Running around trying to find money in the house. I wouldn’t give her the bank card so I was the worst person in the world. She ran out of the house and we found her walking with her boyfriend to try get weed on tick.

We went home minus the boyfriend and talked shouted and cried for age. I eventually cracked and agreed to bring her to buy €20 worth. She talked the dealer like she was making a call to her best friend no problems at all. Drove her to an estate close to ours and out she got and bought it. We divided it up and made it into little bags for have said she can have 1 joint per day. I’m gonna hide the bags and hopefully this will get us through till we get to the gp and cahms on Monday.

I want to run and bring her away for a few days and maybe go cold turkey but I have feckin dialysis every other day. It’s a pain in the ass

OP, feel free to pm me too. My daughter was prescribed Setraline at 16 and it was a game changer for her. It is great CAMHs seeing her. You are doing brilliantly. Your daughter is blessed to have you x

She definitely needs professional help so keep doing what you're doing to get it for her and convince her to take it.

The weed and vapes total €400 per month. She doesn’t really smoke cigarettes apparently. She uses tobacco for the weed and that what she’s smoking.

She has a part time job every weekend and was handing up a very small amount to the household. We wanted her to save towards driving lessons and other things she said she’d like to do but if she can afford €400 on that crap she can afford to contribute more to the household.

Re; swapping 1 for another. Having researched cbd oil I think that maybe it’s the lesser of two evils. I don’t want her doing any of them. She said she’s try it for 1 week and if she doesn’t like we said we’d discuss the weed further.

I’ve frozen all her money so all she has is her leap card and can’t buy anything else. That doesn’t mean she’ll stick to it she could bum it off boyfriend or friends. I can’t believe a word from her mouth.


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Who is supplying it and how does she fund this? I know she has a part time job but does she pay for other things.

Very hard situation to be in. Is that 400 on weed? Or weed and cigarettes.

How is she funding €400 a month on top of cigarettes and vapes?
Also I wouldn't be substituting one product for another as that won't solve any issues.

Little update

Found out she’s smoking a lot more than I originally thought upwards of €400 per month and I also smoking vapes

Cahms seeing her next week and hopefully they can help.

I’m considering maybe getting her to a legal cbt oil as an alternative but I don’t have any other ideas. I just feel we will take out the psychedelic element with the schizophrenia history with DH.


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A very difficult time for you faganlesley. I don't have any advice but wanted to send you good vibes.

Thank you so much for the information. I appreciate the help and I hope your dd is doing well and that she overcomes her anxieties

faganlesley wrote: ↑Sun Sep 24, 2023 6:52 pm Thanks Posher would you mind if I pm’d you. I’d love to hear what medication was prescribed


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Thanks Posher would you mind if I pm’d you. I’d love to hear what medication was prescribed


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faganlesley wrote: ↑Sat Sep 23, 2023 11:05 pm She hasn’t been prescribed anything because she is only 17 so gp can’t give anything. Has to come from a psychiatrist and she hasn’t seen one yet with cahms. Hopefully when I talk to her therapist there on Monday they can intervene with a psychiatrist.

My DD was prescribed an anti-anxiety med by the GP at 16 years old. Granted it was mild but he still prescribed it and she never saw a psychiatrist.

You're doing brilliant OP and the replies here are so supportive. I wish you and your DD well.