by Sally » Fri Aug 25, 2023 1:37 pm
anon76 wrote: ↑Fri Aug 25, 2023 12:42 pm
I did update
"As predicted - Mary knows I read it. She put two and two together. She has now told the other in the group that I went snooping and found it and read it. They are all disgusted with me. They do not know the content though. I just do not know what to do...devastated"
She told them that she journals to process her emotions, etc.etc....Her spin is that I went rummaging for it. How could I? Why would I? She is now "ill with the stress" etc....therefore, I am the bad guy.
I'll let the other girl process it for a while. She knows me 20 years ffs and we have been through so much and has to know I wouldn't deliberately snoop at a friend's diary. I am really struggling myself and just want to try and get through the next few days
I saw that, but how do you know what she told them and what they think?
That would determine some of the advice on next steps.
Eg, if a message was put into the group text by Mary and then the others also replied their disgust via text… that’s one scenario with one set of advice.
If however Mary texted to say “you’re a rotten oul meanie and I’ve told the other two ladies and they hate you too” well, then that’s a different scenario that warrants different advice. (teenage language deliberate as this all sounds so teenagery );
If the way you know something was said was because one of the other ladies texted to say “Mary told me what you did, I’m disgusspted”, then that’s a different scenario again, with different advice needed.
That’s the point I’m making.
You’ve come back with these short little updates, without giving the full story asking for advice.
IMO, you will get more mean8ngful advice if you provide a fuller view of exactly what’s going on.
That’s all.
[quote=anon76 post_id=1656967 time=1692963749]
I did update
"As predicted - Mary knows I read it. She put two and two together. She has now told the other in the group that I went snooping and found it and read it. They are all disgusted with me. They do not know the content though. I just do not know what to do...devastated"
She told them that she journals to process her emotions, etc.etc....Her spin is that I went rummaging for it. How could I? Why would I? She is now "ill with the stress" etc....therefore, I am the bad guy.
I'll let the other girl process it for a while. She knows me 20 years ffs and we have been through so much and has to know I wouldn't deliberately snoop at a friend's diary. I am really struggling myself and just want to try and get through the next few days
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I saw that, but how do you know what she told them and what they think?
That would determine some of the advice on next steps.
Eg, if a message was put into the group text by Mary and then the others also replied their disgust via text… that’s one scenario with one set of advice.
If however Mary texted to say “you’re a rotten oul meanie and I’ve told the other two ladies and they hate you too” well, then that’s a different scenario that warrants different advice. (teenage language deliberate as this all sounds so teenagery );
If the way you know something was said was because one of the other ladies texted to say “Mary told me what you did, I’m disgusspted”, then that’s a different scenario again, with different advice needed.
That’s the point I’m making.
You’ve come back with these short little updates, without giving the full story asking for advice.
IMO, you will get more mean8ngful advice if you provide a fuller view of exactly what’s going on.
That’s all.