by lilypotter » Fri Oct 28, 2022 6:09 pm
Stripy wrote: ↑Fri Oct 28, 2022 3:05 pm
Hi OP, when I read your post, I did think it was a bit excessive going to the Gardai. It seems like his explosion was a
one off and could have been sorted out between you when things were calmer. My DH can fly off the handle but I'd never dream of contacting the guards and I can understand your husband's annoyance.
I didn't read it as a one off - the OP described anger issues/mood swings that have been going on a while although they were "getting on better the last few months" but the the mood swings this week she described as "horrendous". Last nights incident left her scared for her safety and independence and was a culmination of a week's events and past behaviour. When do we draw the line of which incident is the time to seek help?
Vino wrote: ↑Fri Oct 28, 2022 5:11 pm
I think if in doubt we'd all advise any one feeling vulnerable to reach out, overreactions can always be dealt with much easier than volatile situations.
Very true. And there are plenty of examples of irreversible tragedies that people wish they had known about and could have prevented.
OP, I hope you are safe and know you did what you felt you had to do, the repercussions were brought about by his own actions. If he wants help, I hope he gets it. I hope you get support and it all works out for the best for you and your family.
[quote=Stripy post_id=1565064 time=1666965935 user_id=62360]
Hi OP, when I read your post, I did think it was a bit excessive going to the Gardai. It seems like his explosion was a [b]one off[/b] and could have been sorted out between you when things were calmer. My DH can fly off the handle but I'd never dream of contacting the guards and I can understand your husband's annoyance.
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I didn't read it as a one off - the OP described anger issues/mood swings that have been going on a while although they were "getting on better the last few months" but the the mood swings this week she described as "horrendous". Last nights incident left her scared for her safety and independence and was a culmination of a week's events and past behaviour. When do we draw the line of which incident is the time to seek help?
[quote=Vino post_id=1565090 time=1666973479 user_id=2502]
I think if in doubt we'd all advise any one feeling vulnerable to reach out, overreactions can always be dealt with much easier than volatile situations.
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Very true. And there are plenty of examples of irreversible tragedies that people wish they had known about and could have prevented.
OP, I hope you are safe and know you did what you felt you had to do, the repercussions were brought about by his own actions. If he wants help, I hope he gets it. I hope you get support and it all works out for the best for you and your family.