by YankeeC » Wed Oct 05, 2022 10:02 pm
I also have to deal with an older family member who is completely set in their thinking, has zero heed on any "emotions", or what I might "feel like" doing.
There is no point trying to explain myself to this person. It just doesn't compute. So intelligent in so many ways, but cannot see there is any way of doing things only their own.
Mostly I just need to remind myself that my actions/thoughts/preferences/decisions are as valid - to me- as theirs are to them. And then let my mind rest at that,no further explanation to anybody required.
Grey rock technique would describe it well, being pleasantly vague, marking out your own boundaries to myself(and actually sticking to them is the hard part), but broadcasting those boundaries - in my situation, I would be 100% wasting my breath.
I also have to deal with an older family member who is completely set in their thinking, has zero heed on any "emotions", or what I might "feel like" doing.
There is no point trying to explain myself to this person. It just doesn't compute. So intelligent in so many ways, but cannot see there is any way of doing things only their own.
Mostly I just need to remind myself that my actions/thoughts/preferences/decisions are as valid - to me- as theirs are to them. And then let my mind rest at that,no further explanation to anybody required.
Grey rock technique would describe it well, being pleasantly vague, marking out your own boundaries to myself(and actually sticking to them is the hard part), but broadcasting those boundaries - in my situation, I would be 100% wasting my breath.