by Tinky » Sat Sep 03, 2022 1:41 pm
It’s very hard - it took about 5 years of living together despite the marriage being effectively over and the last 2 being hell before he would go as he knew he’d be broke and have less disposable income for the fripperies and status symbols he likes.
We were lucky in that we had a buy to let mortgage on a holiday home 4 hours away so he effectively moved there by choice, it was where he wanted to be anyway but when seeing the kids he stayed with his brother initially. Not ideal and not sustainable. Then his uncle died and it took a year for the house to be sold so he used that. Again not ideal. He’s now renting said brothers house for a cheap rent but looking to end this as he’s obviously paying maintenance, renting a house in Dublin for every second weekend and paying the small mortgage and bills on the ex holiday home.
Quite a convoluted answer but that’s how we did and are doing it. Or at least he is.
We will sell the house in 4 years when the youngest turns 18, that’s quite a common scenario. Either that or 23 but my barrister suggested 18 as I’ll still be young enough to get a small mortgage.
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It’s very hard - it took about 5 years of living together despite the marriage being effectively over and the last 2 being hell before he would go as he knew he’d be broke and have less disposable income for the fripperies and status symbols he likes.
We were lucky in that we had a buy to let mortgage on a holiday home 4 hours away so he effectively moved there by choice, it was where he wanted to be anyway but when seeing the kids he stayed with his brother initially. Not ideal and not sustainable. Then his uncle died and it took a year for the house to be sold so he used that. Again not ideal. He’s now renting said brothers house for a cheap rent but looking to end this as he’s obviously paying maintenance, renting a house in Dublin for every second weekend and paying the small mortgage and bills on the ex holiday home.
Quite a convoluted answer but that’s how we did and are doing it. Or at least he is.
We will sell the house in 4 years when the youngest turns 18, that’s quite a common scenario. Either that or 23 but my barrister suggested 18 as I’ll still be young enough to get a small mortgage.
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