heymammy.com

https://www.instagram.com/p/Chm--8qqAzb ... MyMTA2M2Y=

Another link but good post here

https://www.tiktok.com/@mayagarland_?_t ... fFBfq&_r=1

Here's a tik tok account I couldn't find the other day. Shows clips from TV prog etc (mainly aimed at girls) and the toxic attitude towards food and 'fatness'

CockChoker wrote: ↑Thu Aug 18, 2022 11:42 pm

Scones more often than not have a lot more calories than cake especially when you add jam and cream.

I know! Plus I drink lattes rather than black tea or an Americano with a drop of milk like she does :lol;

MrsPotatoHead wrote: ↑Thu Aug 18, 2022 3:46 pm My mother used to be horrendous for commenting on my weight - I was first brought to Unislim when I was 11! She means well but she really does have disordered eating habits herself, bordering on orthorexia. I finally told her that I was well aware of my weight but that my cholesterol and blood sugars were within the normal ranges and continuing to comment was frankly rude. She hasn't said anything else since, though I will get a side-eye if I choose a cake rather than a scone & jam if we're out for coffee.

Both my GP and my consultant have mentioned that if I lose weight then it would help my medical condition but I actually have it writing from them both that it's a vicious circle as the condition makes it hard to exercise and some of the medication I take causes extreme drowsiness.

Scones more often than not have a lot more calories than cake especially when you add jam and cream.

My mother used to be horrendous for commenting on my weight - I was first brought to Unislim when I was 11! She means well but she really does have disordered eating habits herself, bordering on orthorexia. I finally told her that I was well aware of my weight but that my cholesterol and blood sugars were within the normal ranges and continuing to comment was frankly rude. She hasn't said anything else since, though I will get a side-eye if I choose a cake rather than a scone & jam if we're out for coffee.

Both my GP and my consultant have mentioned that if I lose weight then it would help my medical condition but I actually have it writing from them both that it's a vicious circle as the condition makes it hard to exercise and some of the medication I take causes extreme drowsiness.

Novbaby we've had the opposite with a very overweight parent and a horrific time in hospital. Consultant said if he'd had less "condition" he wouldn't be here now.

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Novbaby31 wrote: ↑Wed Aug 17, 2022 11:59 am one thing I see now that my parents are elderly is that being obese or overweight makes many other problems worse - extra strain on joints in arthritis, managing mobility issues, the stress that excess weight puts on an aging body, trying to get an elderly very overweight person back to sitting or standing after a fall, the strain on from sitting to standing is made worse for an elderly person with extra weight.

I am overweight and honestly have had a glimpse of my future as an overweight person in old age and I am now properly motivated to be as healthy as I can be.

I would agree completely there is an anti fat bias in society but i also think that people are very quick to comment on weight full stop. If I had a euro for every time someone commented on my skinny children I would be very wealthy and much of what is said is not positive.

This totally sums it up for me, very well put Novbaby!

one thing I see now that my parents are elderly is that being obese or overweight makes many other problems worse - extra strain on joints in arthritis, managing mobility issues, the stress that excess weight puts on an aging body, trying to get an elderly very overweight person back to sitting or standing after a fall, the strain on from sitting to standing is made worse for an elderly person with extra weight.

I am overweight and honestly have had a glimpse of my future as an overweight person in old age and I am now properly motivated to be as healthy as I can be.

I would agree completely there is an anti fat bias in society but i also think that people are very quick to comment on weight full stop. If I had a euro for every time someone commented on my skinny children I would be very wealthy and much of what is said is not positive.

Absolutely Deeda, I agree if you can’t say anything nice don’t say anything at all, and not just regarding weight either, the Bloggers thread springs to mind!

Lots of excellent points here. There is an ingrained 'anti fat bias' in society and it's everywhere once you start to notice it.

Excellent post Deeda.

As I get older I realise there are different mindsets about what we as humans can control about ourselves - I’ve seen naturally slim people believe that weight is 100% controllable, which I think therefore makes them feel superior in some way to those who are overweight. This attitude rubs off on everyone, and is perpetuated by many parts of society/media. Ridiculously, I know tall men who seem to believe this about height too.

I believe there are so many uncontrollable (genes, hormones etc) and unknown scientifically reasons why people are overweight, every “body” is different, there truly is no “one size fits all” body shape or approach. I’m shallow and prefer how I look when thinner, maybe I have been programmed to believe that by society but it is an aesthetic I prefer for me. It’s hard work though and sometimes that aim takes a backseat to other things in life.

There are biases in medicine against being overweight, it gets blamed for more problems/issues than is backed up by the science - losing weight isn’t always a cure-all, and the focus on it first can sometimes delay diagnoses.

I agree that someone else commenting is never helpful, and usually very hurtful - falls into the “if you can’t say anything nice don’t say anything at all” category in my book.

StarryNight wrote: ↑Wed Aug 17, 2022 9:34 am Are you sure it was MP you listened to? There's one male and one female presenter, Michael Hobbes and Aubrey Gordon.

You are right it was a man and a woman, I thought the man was a woman based on voice!

That’s just it Aishling being a size 10/12 doesn’t mean you are happy either

I am overweight , I put weight on years ago at a very stressful time and cannot seem to lose it. A few relatives have said it to me including one at a family dinner when I was ordering Dessert!!!. It didn't make me lose weight though.
One thing I find is I went swimming with a few friends recently. My friends who look like a very healthy weight and both wear around size 12 spent their time criticising their bodies and comparing them to other women on the beach. They were obsessed. I got bored and went off swimming on my own. So I realised I'm probably happier with my body than they are with theirs.