by kasakins » Mon Nov 01, 2021 12:20 pm
Feckit I can hear from you writing that you are scared and fed up . We have multiple alcoholics in my family unfortunately. My mother in law is a life long drinker and it started out as an evening drink , then weekend days , then all the time. My DH has been affected so much by this and has huge resentment.
My brother is another. He was an 'occasional' drinker in his words. But there always seemed to be an occasion. like his team was playing, having a friend over, his wife went out so he had the telly to himself. it was a Friday night. He could go a week without and that was his reason that he wasn't an alcoholic. Sure look iv not had a drink in a week, but then he would be back and drinking again. He is such a lovely person but very shy, he used it as a clutch at first but hen relied on it. His 6 year old son ask me why his daddy drank. My brother, if drinking at home, would wait until the kids went to bed, they would normally only see him drinking if they where out with him. But when they saw him, he may not have been drunk but he was slightly louder than normal, happier seemed in great form . all things his kids picked up on and it made them very uncomfortable. They could also tell that the next morning he wasn't himself, he would be tired and short with them.
Things came to a head when he was out and got very drunk, his wife had enough and told him its his family or the drink. that was last December and he has been sober since. As someone else said before, it is his decision but it took a kick up the hole to get him to make that decision. Thankfully he is doing great. He did go talk to someone one to one. AA would not be for him as he is too shy.
I hope you can have a talk with him,
Feckit I can hear from you writing that you are scared and fed up . We have multiple alcoholics in my family unfortunately. My mother in law is a life long drinker and it started out as an evening drink , then weekend days , then all the time. My DH has been affected so much by this and has huge resentment.
My brother is another. He was an 'occasional' drinker in his words. But there always seemed to be an occasion. like his team was playing, having a friend over, his wife went out so he had the telly to himself. it was a Friday night. He could go a week without and that was his reason that he wasn't an alcoholic. Sure look iv not had a drink in a week, but then he would be back and drinking again. He is such a lovely person but very shy, he used it as a clutch at first but hen relied on it. His 6 year old son ask me why his daddy drank. My brother, if drinking at home, would wait until the kids went to bed, they would normally only see him drinking if they where out with him. But when they saw him, he may not have been drunk but he was slightly louder than normal, happier seemed in great form . all things his kids picked up on and it made them very uncomfortable. They could also tell that the next morning he wasn't himself, he would be tired and short with them.
Things came to a head when he was out and got very drunk, his wife had enough and told him its his family or the drink. that was last December and he has been sober since. As someone else said before, it is his decision but it took a kick up the hole to get him to make that decision. Thankfully he is doing great. He did go talk to someone one to one. AA would not be for him as he is too shy.
I hope you can have a talk with him,