by Tobo » Sat Jun 12, 2021 2:18 pm
I'm so sorry to read this, you sound extremely stressed at the situation, I wouldn't blame you btw.
I would imagine your DH doesn't want his children to be in the situation he is in now, with no communication with his siblings. Is there any way he could sit down with the pair of them and explain his reasoning and his history between his family?
While my dad was close to some siblings, he wasn't with others, just happens sometimes with large families. He was always making us aware that there was only two of us, myself and my sibling. That he didn't want us fighting or loosing touch when he was dead. (We got on somewhat, large age gap, as much as siblings do when younger), but it always really bothered him, up to weeks before he died.
I would imagine your DH feels somewhat the same. I wouldn't dismiss him from looking for that. It must be hard for him to be alone although having lots of siblings.
Your DD may well need some counselling with her jealousy and anger, if she's always been that way I would imagine hormones has little to do with it, moreso a trait she has.
Your DS is probably sick of your DD, I know DS here, the eldest, just can't be arsed with his sisters if their stroppy. He tends to eye roll, but at the same time he's always there for them.
Sorry I've no advice really, but I'd imagine a family meeting with no sulking off needs to be had. Your DH needs to make his emotions and feelings clear. Counselling seems to be a good option, both for your DD and as a family.
I'm so sorry to read this, you sound extremely stressed at the situation, I wouldn't blame you btw.
I would imagine your DH doesn't want his children to be in the situation he is in now, with no communication with his siblings. Is there any way he could sit down with the pair of them and explain his reasoning and his history between his family?
While my dad was close to some siblings, he wasn't with others, just happens sometimes with large families. He was always making us aware that there was only two of us, myself and my sibling. That he didn't want us fighting or loosing touch when he was dead. (We got on somewhat, large age gap, as much as siblings do when younger), but it always really bothered him, up to weeks before he died.
I would imagine your DH feels somewhat the same. I wouldn't dismiss him from looking for that. It must be hard for him to be alone although having lots of siblings.
Your DD may well need some counselling with her jealousy and anger, if she's always been that way I would imagine hormones has little to do with it, moreso a trait she has.
Your DS is probably sick of your DD, I know DS here, the eldest, just can't be arsed with his sisters if their stroppy. He tends to eye roll, but at the same time he's always there for them.
Sorry I've no advice really, but I'd imagine a family meeting with no sulking off needs to be had. Your DH needs to make his emotions and feelings clear. Counselling seems to be a good option, both for your DD and as a family.