by Betty27 » Sat Jun 12, 2021 7:37 pm
Worried mum wrote:kahlan wrote: ↑Sat Jun 12, 2021 6:22 pm
Worried mum, you can’t be ‘influenced’ into being gay. You either are or are not or whatever in between. I hear that you are worried for your child, but whatever her eventual decision about her orientation, your only role is to love and accept and support her, regardless of your own feelings. If your own feelings are going to negatively impact your ability to love and support and accept your daughter then you have to go and deal with those. There’s nothing wrong with your child. She may be confused or working out her own orientation, like lots of teens do, and if she can’t rely on you, that’s what will cause her problems, not her friends, social media, leaflets from school etc. Any child who can openly speak with loving and accepting parents has a good chance of working out their teen challenges. For what it’s worth, my own parents (conservative, rural, catholic and in their 70’s) celebrated my sister’s wedding to her lovely wife 5 years ago, the same as any other wedding we have had in the family. They may have private thoughts about their daughter being gay, but they remain private and they have never shown her and her wife the greatest of love and respect, as they should. That’s the job of being a parent. Best of luck.
Can i ask would your sister still have a very close mothee daughter relationship, as im so close to my dd she will message me from school or if shes out with updates etc and i think that is something that im worried for some reason would change if she was gay if she had another close female in her life our mother daughter relationship wouldn't be the same
If you continue to push her to be someone you want her to be then it will affect your relationship.
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[quote="Worried mum"][quote=kahlan post_id=1372502 time=1623518542 user_id=11935]
Worried mum, you can’t be ‘influenced’ into being gay. You either are or are not or whatever in between. I hear that you are worried for your child, but whatever her eventual decision about her orientation, your only role is to love and accept and support her, regardless of your own feelings. If your own feelings are going to negatively impact your ability to love and support and accept your daughter then you have to go and deal with those. There’s nothing wrong with your child. She may be confused or working out her own orientation, like lots of teens do, and if she can’t rely on you, that’s what will cause her problems, not her friends, social media, leaflets from school etc. Any child who can openly speak with loving and accepting parents has a good chance of working out their teen challenges. For what it’s worth, my own parents (conservative, rural, catholic and in their 70’s) celebrated my sister’s wedding to her lovely wife 5 years ago, the same as any other wedding we have had in the family. They may have private thoughts about their daughter being gay, but they remain private and they have never shown her and her wife the greatest of love and respect, as they should. That’s the job of being a parent. Best of luck.
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Can i ask would your sister still have a very close mothee daughter relationship, as im so close to my dd she will message me from school or if shes out with updates etc and i think that is something that im worried for some reason would change if she was gay if she had another close female in her life our mother daughter relationship wouldn't be the same[/quote]
If you continue to push her to be someone you want her to be then it will affect your relationship.
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