Update: DD refused to go to the police in case this inflamed him.
Every time a motorbike passed she was convinced it was him following her.
She was upset going to a concert at the 3 Arena in case he bombed it.
I am trying to reassure her that this won't happen.
She has built him up to me as some sort of hacker and psycho to the point where I am starting to feel paranoid.
With being at home and now school being off, DD needs something to worry about. I realise that sounds mean but I think that this guy is just a focus point for her anxiety.
She was looking him up regularly on Instagram to see when he was last on, checking his WhatsApp photo constantly.
I didn't realise but on Instagram the person can see who viewed them. She viewed from a 3rd account she has and he messaged her from a third account he has
I had enough at that stage and I messaged him saying that he was to stop contacting her that it was upsetting her and we were taking note of all contacts.
DD went bananas when an hour later he deleted all his social media accounts.
I said that this was him reacting to my message, a message from an adult asking him to desist- not the actions of someone going postal and going to shoot up a school.
She was then convinced he was hacking her Instagram. It turned out it was some app she was using.
Then she started checking my Instagram and who had logged in. I don't use Instagram. There was a log in from a device and now she is convinced he is hacking MY Instagram.
It's getting ridiculous. I said she was not allowed in my Instagram. I follow 3 people and I never use it. He is welcome to hack it.
Honestly, I don't know what to think any more.
She has been checking up on him a lot, and while she is not contacting him like he is her, I don't think he is anything other than a teen who has grown up in an internet generation who don't understand what is normal in terms of contacting people. Yes he is ott and odd but I don't believe he is going to drive by and shoot her or bomb her school like she believes.
This may seem dismissive and I hope I am right, but like conspiracy theories somewhere you wonder if there is some truth behind it. However when faced with a girl who has "had" cancer, weils disease, corona virus, a broken spine and used to call me at work 20 km away every time she heard an ambulance in case it was me, I just get sceptical about it all.
If anyone can recommend anything to help her deal with anxiety, I would be grateful.
Update: DD refused to go to the police in case this inflamed him.
Every time a motorbike passed she was convinced it was him following her.
She was upset going to a concert at the 3 Arena in case he bombed it.
I am trying to reassure her that this won't happen.
She has built him up to me as some sort of hacker and psycho to the point where I am starting to feel paranoid.
With being at home and now school being off, DD needs something to worry about. I realise that sounds mean but I think that this guy is just a focus point for her anxiety.
She was looking him up regularly on Instagram to see when he was last on, checking his WhatsApp photo constantly.
I didn't realise but on Instagram the person can see who viewed them. She viewed from a 3rd account she has and he messaged her from a third account he has :rolleyes:
I had enough at that stage and I messaged him saying that he was to stop contacting her that it was upsetting her and we were taking note of all contacts.
DD went bananas when an hour later he deleted all his social media accounts.
I said that this was him reacting to my message, a message from an adult asking him to desist- not the actions of someone going postal and going to shoot up a school.
She was then convinced he was hacking her Instagram. It turned out it was some app she was using.
Then she started checking my Instagram and who had logged in. I don't use Instagram. There was a log in from a device and now she is convinced he is hacking MY Instagram.
It's getting ridiculous. I said she was not allowed in my Instagram. I follow 3 people and I never use it. He is welcome to hack it.
Honestly, I don't know what to think any more.
She has been checking up on him a lot, and while she is not contacting him like he is her, I don't think he is anything other than a teen who has grown up in an internet generation who don't understand what is normal in terms of contacting people. Yes he is ott and odd but I don't believe he is going to drive by and shoot her or bomb her school like she believes.
This may seem dismissive and I hope I am right, but like conspiracy theories somewhere you wonder if there is some truth behind it. However when faced with a girl who has "had" cancer, weils disease, corona virus, a broken spine and used to call me at work 20 km away every time she heard an ambulance in case it was me, I just get sceptical about it all.
If anyone can recommend anything to help her deal with anxiety, I would be grateful.