by MIL getting Old » Thu Sep 05, 2019 7:41 am
MIL (widow), is 88, lives alone in a 4 bedroom detached bungalow.
It's just DH and his brother (and his wife).
MIL still drives but this won't be for very much longer. She is bad on her feet and can't walk very far. She is very forgetful, her short term memory is awful (as in fishbowl memory) but can chat about the old days for yours remembering everything.
DH visits twice a week after work, I go every Sunday. I clean, vacuum, wash clothes, shop...BIL has poa, he looks after all of the financial side, car,. His wife is super too. They probably do more running around than us (BIL retired and they live closer). MIL would phone him quite a lot.
SIL found a dog Walker who comes every day to walk MIL lively dog (and ensures MIL takes her tablets)
MIL isn't entitled to home help, she is quite well off.
I work 5 days a week, have the usual family stuff that everyone has and Sundzy, well I'm starting to feel resentful and I hate myself for feeling this way. I've been doing it 3 years and I'm tired.
I feel mean for writing it down, I love her to bits.
The dog is a pain in the ass it's very destructive, eats loo roll tissue, chews cushions as a result even if you vacuum you could go back the following day and the place is like a bomb site.
MIL adores the dog, it's great company so not s hope we can rehome, this is one of the reasons for the dog Walker, we feel if she is properly exercised she will be less likely to chew, we are only a week into the dog Walker so will see how that goes.
Heading into Autumn, this coupled with dark evenings, bad weather and the two hour round trip, I'm honestly dreading the coming months.
There have been a couple of weeks where DH does Sunday (If I had plans/even on), but he needs a break too.
When I committed to every Sunday 3 years back I honestly didn't think it through at the time.
Even writing it down makes me sound like a right cow, I suppose I'm just wondering if anyone else is going through the same.
MIL (widow), is 88, lives alone in a 4 bedroom detached bungalow.
It's just DH and his brother (and his wife).
MIL still drives but this won't be for very much longer. She is bad on her feet and can't walk very far. She is very forgetful, her short term memory is awful (as in fishbowl memory) but can chat about the old days for yours remembering everything.
DH visits twice a week after work, I go every Sunday. I clean, vacuum, wash clothes, shop...BIL has poa, he looks after all of the financial side, car,. His wife is super too. They probably do more running around than us (BIL retired and they live closer). MIL would phone him quite a lot.
SIL found a dog Walker who comes every day to walk MIL lively dog (and ensures MIL takes her tablets)
MIL isn't entitled to home help, she is quite well off.
I work 5 days a week, have the usual family stuff that everyone has and Sundzy, well I'm starting to feel resentful and I hate myself for feeling this way. I've been doing it 3 years and I'm tired.
I feel mean for writing it down, I love her to bits.
The dog is a pain in the ass it's very destructive, eats loo roll tissue, chews cushions as a result even if you vacuum you could go back the following day and the place is like a bomb site.
MIL adores the dog, it's great company so not s hope we can rehome, this is one of the reasons for the dog Walker, we feel if she is properly exercised she will be less likely to chew, we are only a week into the dog Walker so will see how that goes.
Heading into Autumn, this coupled with dark evenings, bad weather and the two hour round trip, I'm honestly dreading the coming months.
There have been a couple of weeks where DH does Sunday (If I had plans/even on), but he needs a break too.
When I committed to every Sunday 3 years back I honestly didn't think it through at the time.
Even writing it down makes me sound like a right cow, I suppose I'm just wondering if anyone else is going through the same.