by Kmum » Fri Aug 30, 2019 10:16 am
Is he an employee? If so he would be protected on sick leave, if his company won’t pay him then he would be entitled to illness benefit. But his job would be protected until you have more certainty around the prognosis. It’s an extremely stressful time but this might buy you some headspace and keep some cash coming in. Can you take a 6mth break on mortgage repayments? A lot of mortgage agreements allow for this without impacting on the terms of the mortgage, you will pay more interest but will be nominal in terms of your overall repayment.
Are there any expenses that will reduce while your DH is off work? Childcare, Travel to work expenses etc Could your DH put dinner on during the day, slow cooker dinners that might take a little bit more time but save money and allow you to use cheaper cuts of meat. Can you focus on the next 6mths and when you get through that and see how your DH is you can look at the future, at which point your DH will hopefully be in a position to share the decision making.
Can you put aside some time for yourself each week? Have a walk/run date with a friend. I run with two friends three times a week and it’s more of a counselling/rant session than anything else. I’d echo confiding in a trusted friend who will let you rant and not judge. Mind yourself and use the board here too.
Is he an employee? If so he would be protected on sick leave, if his company won’t pay him then he would be entitled to illness benefit. But his job would be protected until you have more certainty around the prognosis. It’s an extremely stressful time but this might buy you some headspace and keep some cash coming in. Can you take a 6mth break on mortgage repayments? A lot of mortgage agreements allow for this without impacting on the terms of the mortgage, you will pay more interest but will be nominal in terms of your overall repayment.
Are there any expenses that will reduce while your DH is off work? Childcare, Travel to work expenses etc Could your DH put dinner on during the day, slow cooker dinners that might take a little bit more time but save money and allow you to use cheaper cuts of meat. Can you focus on the next 6mths and when you get through that and see how your DH is you can look at the future, at which point your DH will hopefully be in a position to share the decision making.
Can you put aside some time for yourself each week? Have a walk/run date with a friend. I run with two friends three times a week and it’s more of a counselling/rant session than anything else. I’d echo confiding in a trusted friend who will let you rant and not judge. Mind yourself and use the board here too.