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We used the word Wendy to imply someone was a wuss.. cant remember who said it first.

LM I'd be very careful. She sounds like a looper.

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The mumsnet Wendy just comes from a thread years ago where the OP called the woman who was pushing her out Wendy.

Aha! Penny drops. Thanks RedHen.

Mumsnet seem to use Wendy as an expression for a woman you introduce to your friends who then takes over the group and pushes you out. But I've also heard it used as a description for someone who is the sole female in a group of male friends, like Wendy with the Lost Boys from Peter Pan.

Possibly a stupid question, but what is a Wendy. I get the gist from the posts above, but why Wendy?

this thread kind of got me thinking, there was a "Wendy" in my circle when I was in school I just didn't realise it. She would muscle in on my friendships and in some cases get them to gang up on me. She's still somewhat in my circle and has retrained in the area I work in and if I sign my children up to something hers often follow. I posted a particular type of family photo to Facebook once and she posted an almost identical one of her family shortly afterwards, OH raised his eyebrows when he saw it but at the time I laughed it off and said imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. I keep her somewhat at arms length anyway, so as adults nothing bad has ever happened but I guess this thread has made me think maybe I should watch out for her.

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shakey wrote:

NDM wrote:Live those comments

"Your happiness is her torture"

And being "wendied"...

Think we've all been there.
Well done you for standing your ground.

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Agreed.

My dad was a firm believer in never letting anyone like that know they annoyed you and smile through it even though you want to scream/scowl. It’ll drive them mad they haven’t got to you .

Gets me through most work days

Wise words shakey.

NDM wrote:Live those comments

"Your happiness is her torture"

And being "wendied"...

Think we've all been there.
Well done you for standing your ground.

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Agreed.

My dad was a firm believer in never letting anyone like that know they annoyed you and smile through it even though you want to scream/scowl. It’ll drive them mad they haven’t got to you .

Gets me through most work days

Live those comments

"Your happiness is her torture"

And being "wendied"...

Think we've all been there.
Well done you for standing your ground.

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So glad you spoke to the other club members and that others see her for what she is - a bully and a bitch. Don't let her win this case with you. You stand your ground and continue to be a member of this club. I have a "wendy" in my life too and its awful, but thankfully I don't get to see her too much but when I do - my god my heart rate goes through the roof!!! I've had my chance to have words with her and there were not nice words but ones that she had to hear from me. So she knows exactly what I think of her. She is known to be a nasty woman but at the same time there are a lot of people who are "friends" with her so that they don't get excluded. Very stupid and very silly for a grown woman. But ultimately she won't be the last. How we deal with those nasties is what makes us strong women. Hold your head high - your happiness is her torture

HeyJude wrote:Good to hear that you can stay with the club and that others know what she is like. I'm disappointed for you that the other members haven't spoken up before and let her away with her behavior. How can we ask our kids and teens to stand up to bullies if grown adults won't do it.

So true - I'm guilty of that as I got bullied out of my camera club. But I don't care as I have other things to be doing at the minute but there are other clubs as well.

Glad you are ok Club and enjoying your club.

Good to hear that you can stay with the club and that others know what she is like. I'm disappointed for you that the other members haven't spoken up before and let her away with her behavior. How can we ask our kids and teens to stand up to bullies if grown adults won't do it.

Good update!

I’m very glad to hear that your experience of this woman has been validated, but at the same time sorry to hear that she still exerts such an influence over the group. She sounds truly manipulative. I can only imagine how much you want her to answer for her behaviour towards you but at least now you know you’re not alone and she didn’t succeed in pushing you out.

Great update, always good to know you're not going mad and others see it too. Enjoy your hobby