by newshoes » Thu Jul 08, 2021 10:36 am
It sounds very tough on the young girl but it does sound like there is very little you can do for her aside from facilitating gp visits.
If it's a child welfare/abuse/ neglect issue that's a bit different but it sounds more like its a poor relationship with her parents?
I would very strongly suggest that you help your son develop some boundaries for himself. He is too young for her to lean on him to any major extent. This is probably his first serious relationship and is going to influence all other relationships going forward. Encourage his relationship with his friends and and support any activities/ sports he does.
I know this might sound awful but I wouldn't be supportive of her being in your house too much, encourage them to go out and be active. In terms of you paying but him pretending it is him, I'd also say tell her the truth, it's modelling a healthy parental relationship where he had confided in you and also establishing that boundary in their relationship.
I unfortunately have experience where one young person is exerting undue influence on their gf/bf and it usually ends up worse for the gf/bf. I'm not saying that it what is happening here, only some of what you describe could be the first step towards it.
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It sounds very tough on the young girl but it does sound like there is very little you can do for her aside from facilitating gp visits.
If it's a child welfare/abuse/ neglect issue that's a bit different but it sounds more like its a poor relationship with her parents?
I would very strongly suggest that you help your son develop some boundaries for himself. He is too young for her to lean on him to any major extent. This is probably his first serious relationship and is going to influence all other relationships going forward. Encourage his relationship with his friends and and support any activities/ sports he does.
I know this might sound awful but I wouldn't be supportive of her being in your house too much, encourage them to go out and be active. In terms of you paying but him pretending it is him, I'd also say tell her the truth, it's modelling a healthy parental relationship where he had confided in you and also establishing that boundary in their relationship.
I unfortunately have experience where one young person is exerting undue influence on their gf/bf and it usually ends up worse for the gf/bf. I'm not saying that it what is happening here, only some of what you describe could be the first step towards it.
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