Feeling unappreciated on birthday.
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Happy Birthday.
I'm delighted with your update but it also made me smile to "hear" the difference in you. Fair play to you for turning things around.
I'm delighted with your update but it also made me smile to "hear" the difference in you. Fair play to you for turning things around.
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Brilliant update and happy birthday wishes to you too
Strong I’m thinking of you and hopefully you may have had some positive changes in your relationship??
Strong I’m thinking of you and hopefully you may have had some positive changes in your relationship??
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Thanks for posting that update. Delighted you are getting the love and respect you deserve.
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oh that is a lovely update. I am delighted that this year was a very different experience to last year.
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Your update brought a tear to my eye. So delighted for you. Should almost be a sticky post - I've read so many posts over the years from mothers who have been disappointed by birthdays, mother's day, Christmas etc -this thread is a brilliant example of how to handle these situations and validates the feelings of mothers.
Getting the balance between being the family caregiver and family doormat is such a difficult one - it sounds like you've got it right. Perhaps last year's birthday pain was worth it after all given how it's changed your perspective, and your DH's.
Getting the balance between being the family caregiver and family doormat is such a difficult one - it sounds like you've got it right. Perhaps last year's birthday pain was worth it after all given how it's changed your perspective, and your DH's.
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Re: Feeling unappreciated on birthday.
how quick that year went by! and look how far you have come.
note to everyone reading to look how things can change in a year. As the saying goes whether you say you can or you cant.... you are right ...... lets start positive thinking!!
delighted to read that update... enjoy being treated after this long x
note to everyone reading to look how things can change in a year. As the saying goes whether you say you can or you cant.... you are right ...... lets start positive thinking!!
delighted to read that update... enjoy being treated after this long x
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Hello I thought maybe an update would be good two years on.
I have had another better birthday. This year I made a list of things I would like. And also bought myself some gifts.
I have done a lot of self care including getting botox for the first time which has given me a big confidence boost.
I have continued with my class once a week and also other times head off and suit myself so they have had to get on with things at home.
If anyone is in the same boat I would hugely recommend to start being more self centred and lift the sense of obligations you might feel. I used to do so much for others I lost myself as a priority and I have scaled so many things back eg worrying about older relatives and being accommodating for in laws. This year for Christmas for the first time I have not offered to host anything.
Anyway I hope this might help someone who might be in the same boat as I was.
I have had another better birthday. This year I made a list of things I would like. And also bought myself some gifts.
I have done a lot of self care including getting botox for the first time which has given me a big confidence boost.
I have continued with my class once a week and also other times head off and suit myself so they have had to get on with things at home.
If anyone is in the same boat I would hugely recommend to start being more self centred and lift the sense of obligations you might feel. I used to do so much for others I lost myself as a priority and I have scaled so many things back eg worrying about older relatives and being accommodating for in laws. This year for Christmas for the first time I have not offered to host anything.
Anyway I hope this might help someone who might be in the same boat as I was.